How to Get a Good Latch: Treat Breastfeeding Pain, Sore Nipples & Common Nursing Problems

Many expecting mothers assume breastfeeding will come naturally. But when there's pain, a crying baby, or sleepless nights spent wondering what you're doing wrong, it can feel overwhelming.

The truth is, most breastfeeding challenges stem from one common issue: a poor latch. The good news? It's usually fixable.

Why a Good Latch Matters

A shallow latch can lead to:

• Sore, cracked, or painful nipples

• Low milk transfer to your baby

• Engorgement, blocked ducts, or mastitis

• Reduced milk supply over time

A deep latch helps protect your nipples, supports milk production, and ensures your baby feeds effectively.

I know nobody sat you down during your third trimester and said, "Beta, breastfeeding is a skill. It takes practice, for both you and your baby."

Step 1: Get Comfortable

Before feeding, make sure you're comfortable. Use a feeding pillow, support your back, and keep water nearby. Good posture can make a significant difference to your breastfeeding experience.

Step 2: Position Your Baby Correctly

Keep your baby tummy-to-tummy with you, with their ear, shoulder, and hip aligned.

Common breastfeeding positions include:

• Cradle hold

• Cross-cradle hold

• Football hold

• Side-lying position for night feeds

Your baby's nose should be level with your nipple to encourage a deeper latch.

Step 3: Wait for a Wide-Open Mouth

Gently brush your nipple against your baby's upper lip to trigger the rooting reflex. Wait until their mouth opens wide, then bring them to the breast.

Step 4: Aim for a Deep Latch

Your baby should take in both the nipple and a good portion of the areola.

Signs of a good latch:

• Minimal or no pain after the first few seconds

• Rhythmic swallowing

• Lips flanged outward

• Full, rounded cheeks

Signs of a poor latch:

• Clicking sounds while feeding

• Persistent pain

• Misshapen nipple after feeds

• Baby remains hungry or struggles to gain weight

Breastfeeding With Flat or Inverted Nipples

Flat or inverted nipples can make latching more challenging, but breastfeeding is still possible for most mothers. Stimulating the nipple before feeds, trying different positions, or seeking professional guidance can help.

Breaking the Latch Safely

If feeding feels uncomfortable, gently insert a clean finger into the corner of your baby's mouth to release suction before trying again

Helpful Breastfeeding Essentials

• Breast pumps for relieving engorgement and expressing milk

• Supportive nursing bras

• Nipple creams and butters

• Hot and cold breast gel pads

• Early support from a lactation consultant if problems persist

Frequently asked questions

Why are my nipples so sore after breastfeeding?

Sore nipples are almost always caused by a shallow latch. When the baby isn't drawing enough of the areola into their mouth, the nipple takes the full pressure of the suck. Correcting the latch usually resolves soreness within a few days.

I have cracked nipples, should I stop nursing?

Not necessarily. Cracked nipples are a sign the latch needs adjustment, not that breastfeeding should stop. Air-dry nipples after each feed, apply a lanolin-based cream, and re-examine positioning. If cracking is severe or bleeding, approach a lactation consultant promptly before continuing.

Why do I feel like I have no milk?

In the first few days, your body produces colostrum which is a small but highly concentrated fluid. It can feel like nothing is there. Breast milk typically comes in between day 2 and day 5. Frequent nursing is what signals your body to increase production. Perceived low supply in the early days is rarely actual low supply.

Can I breastfeed if I have flat or inverted nipples?

Yes, in most cases. It may require additional technique and support in the early days. Read our detailed guide above on breastfeeding with flat or inverted nipples.

How long should each nursing session last?

Anywhere from 10 to 45 minutes is normal in the newborn stage. Let your baby feed until they release the breast on their own rather than timing the feed.

Is it normal to breastfeed so often at night?

Yes. Newborns have small stomachs and breast milk digests quickly. Frequent night feeding is normal and temporary. It also plays a role in maintaining your milk supply, as prolactin levels are higher at night.

When does breastfeeding stop hurting?

With a correct latch, there should be no significant pain beyond mild tenderness in the first week or two. Persistent pain beyond that is a signal something needs to be looked at.

If you have any questions or if something you read here resonated with your experience, we would love to share it with you. 

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